Perhaps the hustle and bustle of life cause many of us to rarely forget childhood memories with our parents, or a definite promise that “when we grow up, we will take care of our parents” or show love through a hug with the saying “I love dad and mom the most in the world”.
It is these innocent and naive words that provide an additional source of motivation, creating a solid spiritual foundation that helps parents overcome difficult and stagnant days when nurturing, teaching, and loving their children unconditionally
Don’t forget that parents are great benefactors
Regardless of why we are present in this life, having a physical body is a great blessing that our parents have bestowed upon us. A filial child will deeply understand the weight of the pain and hardship that comes with giving birth and raising a child from infancy, which is not an easy task. Especially during the days when the child is sick, hospitalized, or in need of emergency care, or when the child is crying and not listening, only parents can truly feel the exhaustion and sadness to such an extent.
And there are many other reasons that we cannot forget their kindness. Especially the silent sacrifices they made by giving up their dreams to devote all their energy to taking care of their children. No matter how much hardship and suffering they endured, parents embraced it all, even swallowing their bitterness when being looked down upon and scorned just to make money and provide their children with good food, nice clothes, and a decent education like everyone else. The drops of sweat and tears shed on their shoulders, or the countless tears shed throughout the journey of raising their children to adulthood.
Through that, we can truly appreciate the value and significance of the poem: “A father’s goodness is higher than the mountain, a mother’s goodness deeper than the sea”. Only then can we fully understand that there is nothing comparable to the boundless love of parents for their children.
Don’t divide responsibility when taking care of your parents
People often say: “Raising a child for one hundred years requires ninety-nine years of worries”, to signify that raising and educating children is a long, challenging process that requires a great deal of effort and even a lifetime of dedication. Moreover, this quiet sacrifice only increases as children enter adulthood, get married, and have their children. According to psychological surveys, this is a period when parents experience a lot of emotions, worries, and vulnerability.”
As the mood and health of parents entirely depend on their children. If they know their children live happily and joyfully, then that happiness is multiplied. On the other hand, if they see their children lacking and unhappy, parents are the ones who worry and suffer the most. Sometimes, they are even afraid of bothering their children and affecting their lives, so they accept suffering for themselves, including loneliness and just wish their children to live happily and joyfully.
Inherently the love of parents for their children is the same everywhere in the world, although the way they show it may vary. Behind that, there is a tender heart, full of compassion and tolerance. Therefore, let’s not divide responsibilities or argue about who should do what, but instead, take the opportunity to repay the debt of nurturing and raising us by giving back and making our parents’ final days happy.
Please love your parents while you still can
Many have expressed regret and uttered phrases like, “I wish my parents were still alive”, “I wish to see my mother once more”, “I wish to see my father again”, etc. along with many other simple desires left unfulfilled or words from the depths of their heart that they never spoke while their parents were alive.
Therefore, cherish the short moments when you are with your parents, and take some time to care, talk, or have a complete family meal. Listen and be patient when your parents advise you because no matter who we are, no matter how old we are, in the eyes of our parents, we are still seen as children. So, do not impose your outside knowledge, but guide them with love, because the inner instinct of parents will choose their way to love their children. And that is why parents often “forgive easily” when their children deeply hurt them.
Although everyone may have different circumstances and thoughts, if you are a filial child, you will surely not demand anything from your parents. There are cases like Vietnamese-American singer Randy, who was abandoned as a child and never knew his parents, lacking both emotional and material support, but he has never held any grudges. Instead, he always reserves a lot of love for his birth parents by expressing his longing for them through his Vietnamese music compositions such as Mẹ (Mother), Chờ Tin Cha (Waiting for News of Father), or Cả Đời Vì Con (Lifetime for You). Despite his futile journey to find his relatives, he never gave up because he believed that “tears always flow downwards”, which motivated him to continue searching.
Therefore, don’t let the pressures of life separate you from your parents’ love. Love your parents while you still can, because, at some point, you will understand and realize that being born into this life is a blessing, having a healthy body is fortunate, and hearing your parents call your name every morning when you wake up is the greatest gift.
By TVVN Press
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