In life, there will be many things that don’t go as desired, even those that seemed to be within our firm grasp of victory but ultimately slip away. Despite one’s unwavering determination, relentless efforts, and even the belief of having done everything right, the results still fail to materialize. This situation can leave one feeling anxious, disappointed, and, at times, even losing faith in oneself due to the unfulfilled longing.
People often say, “Don’t count your chickens before they hatch”, to remind those who have intentions or are currently engaged in something not to make any definitive assertions because sometimes the outcome may differ from their expectations. However, everyone has dreams, aspirations, and desires for achievements that they genuinely cherish, so it is difficult to avoid the act of anticipating. Moreover, the scientific community has demonstrated the existence of the law of attraction that permeates each of us. Therefore, psychologists encourage its application in our spiritual lives, helping individuals develop a belief in fostering positive thinking to achieve favorable outcomes sooner. By emitting signals and messages to the universe, they believe that the universe will respond to those desires.
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Therefore, they make continuous efforts to expect and strongly believe in the desired outcome. However, in the end, when their wishes are not fulfilled, they experience psychological distress and lose faith in themselves. So what is the underlying truth behind this phenomenon? Why is it that the more we long for something, the less likely we are to attain it? And how can we change these outcomes?
1. Being overly focused on the outcome burns through the stages and the nurturing process.
Although each expectation hopes to reach the final destination end, this mindset often hinders the complete execution of the process. Especially after finding a goal, passion, or believing in someone’s promise, individuals often experience an increase in enthusiasm and confidence, envisioning a future with positive outcomes. Consequently, they unintentionally overlook the small steps that are essential in the process. Most commonly, they fall into subjective biases, excessive self-assurance, a lack of caution, impatience, haste, or disregard for minor details. However, these very weaknesses are what contribute to value, capabilities, and success. For instance, when interacting with loved ones, a lack of gentleness and respect can be observed. In work-related situations, it may stem from inadequate preparation for potential risks, a lack of focus, or a deficiency in self-discipline. Similarly, when dealing with customers, there may be a lack of attentiveness, failure to observe their desires, or an excessive and hasty approach. All of these behaviors can easily erode others’ sense of safety and trust.
In an interview, My Tam, an A-list singer in the Vietnamese music entertainment scene, has maintained her prominent position since 2003. Simultaneously, she is one of the few artists who enjoys widespread popularity among audiences. She once shared, “In any profession, everyone desires success. However, if you have chosen your path, believe that the outcome is inevitable. Therefore, there’s no need to dwell on the result; instead, focus on the work, prepare mentally. It’s crucial to maintain determination, actively learn, be creative, and never overlook the smallest details”.
Photo. Singer Mỹ Tâm
2. Excessive expectations that overlook one’s true abilities
With the responsibilities and aspirations for the future ahead, everyone carries a unique mission within themselves. That’s why, the desire acts as an indispensable spiritual support aimed at developing self-confidence through various means. Among these, some people consciously practice honing their emotional management skills, while others delve deep into their subconscious. Additionally, applying the law of attraction to elevate vibrational frequencies is also a part of this pursuit.
Photo. Interaction between the human consciousness and the universe.
These are all methods to generate positive energy and attract fortunate and beautiful things. In reality, there have been many cases where individuals have witnessed or unexpectedly received results beyond their expectations. As a result, people spread stories about the successes and miracles they have achieved through faith. However, seldom do people pay attention to or discuss the process of how these miracles appear and where they originate from.
Additionally, some individuals solely focus on and chase after excessive desires, relying on a sense of fantasy. They even ‘pray’ for unrealistic wishes that surpass their true capabilities. This unintentionally nurtures greed and sometimes leads to frustration, questioning why they haven’t received the desired results despite their efforts and exertions. Furthermore, some are influenced by negative external factors, which deplete the positive energy they had previously received. Due to a reluctance to address and rectify their shortcomings or an inability to recognize their own mistakes, they continue to repeat the same patterns. As a result, the more they seek, the less they receive, and at times, they lose both faith and the will to strive.
3. How to achieve results from wishes and desires
Worldwide, many successful and wealthy individuals come from poor backgrounds. However, a common trait among them is an intense desire and a refusal to give up on their dreams. In addition to perseverance and determination, most of them are meticulous in their work, paying attention to every small step and potential risk. Moreover, they maintain an optimistic attitude, believing it is crucial as it can determine one’s success or failure. Similarly, in love, those who aim to sustain happiness do not easily give up and don’t necessarily wait for the other person to show affection. Therefore, they proactively show care, nurture, and invest in relationships, as they believe small actions build lasting love. Therefore, it’s important not to dwell on the outcome but to focus on what needs to be done within one’s capabilities. In particular, continuously learn, monitor the journey, anticipate risks, and don’t overlook any details. As Lao Tzu once said, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”.
Illustration of Lao Tzu’s image
Even in the face of failures or old age, everyone needs means and methods to connect with faith. This taps into the hidden power within, developing a positive mindset from simple and ordinary things. By returning to nurturing authenticity, expanding compassion, and observing to identify deficiencies for improvement, because ultimately, all suffering and difficulties stem from small mistakes.
Once you understand yourself, have self-belief, and sincerely project positive intentions towards others, even simple wishes may be granted by the universe in alignment with your desires.
By TVVN Press