In every individual, there are both positive and negative qualities intertwined. These qualities evolve through one’s awareness, perspectives, and personal circumstances. Only when we acknowledge our mistakes and possess a strong determination to make changes can good nature flourish. Furthermore, the potential risks and negative consequences are significantly reduced by regularly associating with virtuous individuals. So, how can we select and discern the good people who are around us?
Since ancient times, our ancestors have gleaned practical wisdom that ‘Living ethically will lead to a prosperous life’, serving as a reminder for each individual to uphold the spirit of compassionate and ethical living. This not only does it enhance one’s character, but also accumulates the seeds of abundance for the future when we give generously of virtuous values such as kindness, compassion, and care for others, regardless of whether it pertains to the spiritual or material aspects are considered a good thing and fortunate. Due to their deep understanding of the value of compassion, a majority of wealthy and renowned individuals around the world have voluntarily contributed and established charitable foundations to support less fortunate individuals. Even many present-day billionaires have announced their wills, after their passing, they will allocate a significant portion of their wealth to support various charitable endeavors, exemplified by billionaires such as Warren Buffett, Michael Bloomberg, Tim Cook, Bill Gates, Chuck Feeney, George Soros, Azim Premji, Carlos Slim Helu, Li Ka-Shing, and many others.
Photo. Many billionaires allocate a significant portion of their wealth to charitable activities
They boldly donate without hesitation, all because of love over worry and inherent human fear. Simultaneously, they value social responsibility and have the desire to contribute and show gratitude for life. Additionally, based on their real-life experiences, they have absolute faith in the universe’s law of fairness that ‘giving can last forever’, viewing it as a protective shield for future generations to escape the negative vices surrounding them. This action has the potential to stimulate intellectual capacity and develop a sense of inheritance for future generations. A prime example is oil tycoon John D. Rockefeller, who embraced this approach, and his descendants have upheld their wealth for over 100 years, establishing a tradition of raising affluent children within the Rockefeller family.
Photo. Billionaire John D. Rockefeller left a ‘will’ while still alive
Therefore, since childhood, everyone is advised by their parents to befriend good people and stay away from bad ones because they fear that unfortunate things may happen to us when we lack the experience to see through others.
In addition, the progress of modern civilization enables people to become increasingly intelligent, adaptable, and skilled in communication, which can conceal their inner emotions and bad habits, making them difficult to discern. Real-life evidence shows that many individuals are attracted to appearances, polite and gentle manners, keeping promises, showing empathy, and helping those less fortunate. As a result, they become more likable in the eyes of others, and their friendships become closer. However, once they reveal their true colors, it can leave us feeling bitter, disappointed, and at times, even lose trust in other relationships.
So, if we base it on the experience of ‘judging a man by his looks’, it is indeed challenging to differentiate who is genuinely affectionate and virtuous. On the contrary, no one can disguise themselves indefinitely. Therefore, in addition to observing attitudes, actions, and words, we must keenly observe the distinguishing characteristics in the present moment to draw a more accurate and conclusive judgment
1. Not take advantage of anyone for the sake of reputation, wealth, or lust
This is the integrity of kind people because they don’t want to inconvenience anyone and fear being perceived as taking advantage. That’s the reason they often maintain their self-respect when interacting with others, and they also don’t want to receive a good reputation on their side if it diminishes the value of helping the less fortunate, as they deeply understand that no one wants to see their family members portrayed as pitiful or inferior in the eyes of others. Unless they lack sufficient financial ability to provide support, in which case they may seek assistance from the community, or if it is part of a PR strategy. However, if they choose to share their actions publicly, they also carefully select appropriate images and use gentle, polite language to show respect towards others. In particular, they refrain from forcing or coaxing individuals who are facing material or emotional difficulties to exploit, seize, or seek personal advantages.
2. Daring to take responsibility, admit mistakes, show gratitude, and protect the vulnerable
Considered a distinctive trait of individuals with chivalrous qualities, “daring to do, daring to be responsible’ without blaming anyone else, they always remain true to themselves. Instead of seeking excuses, they actively seek their mistakes, even when it acknowledges assisting others. Once they accept a task, they willingly bear the consequences. Therefore, when someone helps them, whether it is significant or minimal, they always remain grateful, often mentioning the benefactor’s name in conversation. In addition, the ‘magnanimous’ nature that likes to help and protect the weak is always present within noble individuals.
3. Easily moved by seeing someone in pain or happiness.
This characteristic is often found in emotionally sensitive individuals, especially those who haven’t experienced similar situations but are easily moved by the pain and joy of others. It is because only a heart full of compassion can overflow with emotions without needing a reason. Sometimes, seeing someone happy, they are even happier than themselves. Some people express sympathy hidden in tears, while introverted individuals can easily convey it through the act of attentive listening, sad eyes, gentle smiles, and sincere advice. Even bringing their inner thoughts into creative endeavors such as writing, drawing, and music evokes a sense of lightness, sadness, and emotional impact in the audience/viewers.
4. The conversation always carries the intention to connect and bond with everyone around
Habits like these are characteristic of warm-hearted individuals because they don’t want to witness emotional rifts or family separations. Therefore, as soon as they hear something ‘unusual’ from the other person, they immediately seek ways to express positivity and promote reconciliation to maintain harmony between both parties. Whether it’s a stranger or a new acquaintance, they are willing to sit for extended periods, attentively listen to their thoughts, and contemplate how to foster a bond of love and help alleviate their sadness, without expecting any personal gain. However, wise individuals, upon realizing their inability to persuade or witnessing the other person’s unchanging attitude, choose to cease sharing to prevent further negativity and avoid investing time in stubborn and disrespectful individuals.
5. Embracing setbacks with a cheerful attitude, without complaining or ‘passing the blame to others
Such individuals are rare to come across, and if you encounter one, treasure them as they are truly compassionate souls. Despite having full courage, intelligence, abilities, and compassion, they shy away from showcasing their talents and prefer silently offering help without expecting anything in return.
Due to their humble nature and positive outlook on life, they do not hold onto resentment for the adversities they have experienced. Instead, they maintain gratitude for adversities and consistently exude an optimistic and joyful spirit toward everyone. Perhaps it is their positive aura and sincere nature that naturally garner affection and trust from others, even in moments when they keep silent.
The aforementioned signs can somewhat assist you in selecting a good friend. However, psychologists argue that one’s character can still change over time if they alter their current life goals. Nevertheless, ultimately everyone will come to realize that only the path of righteousness leads to peace and happiness
By TVVN Press
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